Nothing like waking up to an email from Chris' sister saying that she wants to be named the administrator when I have already expressed my intent to be the one appointed... I can feel my blood pressure rising but I'm still in a position that may force her to back off... the ultimate trump card is how much involvement that I choose to allow them to have if she proceeds and I stated that I would pull back completely from them if she did not allow me to finish what I have started... she seems to think that the law will be fair and that the administrator will have the power to disperse his estate as deemed fit but she may not realize that the law is black and white and there is no room to be fair... all of his physical estate will go to the children and the money will go mainly to the the IRS... as administrator I would receive 5 % of the estate for handling the affair but that would be the only way I could guarantee the kids would get any of the money... no one wants to say outright that they want the girlfriend to be able to keep some of his things... they won't tell me how they truly feel about me because they want to walk that fine line between keeping me happy and the girlfriend happy... I had doubts about having any of them in our lives before and this will solidify my position... I know that I wasn't the only one to feel pain in losing Chris... he was a big part in all of our lives... I couldn't imagine losing my sister or my child... but that doesn't make the legal situation any different... I am not enjoying having to be ruthless but I will do everything necessary to secure what the children are entitled to... and if that means I'll have to drop a house on more than the girlfriend then I am fully prepared to do so... so the saga continues...